Biggest reason for my asocial tendencies is simply conflict. People genuinely look for conflict.
I have no problem engaging in conflict when there is a purpose to it. At the same time, I have no problem walking away from conflict when it does not serve any constructive purpose. Fact is, I consistently take the side of logic and reason. Human rights are logical. Humanitarianism is logical.
I find far too many people today actively seeking things to be offended by. Just the smallest misused word sets them off. Just asking a question which makes them think or question their views may set them off.
Or it doesn't have to be that deep. One coworker said they had several days off in a row. I've never had any conflicts with this person. Never socialized with them outside of work. Nothing negative had happened in the course of the evening. I asked what they had planned for their time off and they responded, "That's none of your business!" All I could say was, "Um, okay." Everyone else present was taken aback. The person could have said, "Nothing" or "It's private". I'm not going to carry the issue any further. Just let it go. Anything else would be illogical. I figured I was engaging in normal human conversation.
But this is happening everywhere and I do not understand it. Maybe I don't want to.
Has it always been here and I am just waking up to it? Has it gotten worse because of social media?
In any case, that's a big reason I tend to be isolationist. I'd rather just avoid all the drama. If I socialize it is to find people I have things in common with, not to find confrontation for no reason. Even if there is disagreement, I prefer conversation over argument. I always have and always will.
I have no problem engaging in conflict when there is a purpose to it. At the same time, I have no problem walking away from conflict when it does not serve any constructive purpose. Fact is, I consistently take the side of logic and reason. Human rights are logical. Humanitarianism is logical.
I find far too many people today actively seeking things to be offended by. Just the smallest misused word sets them off. Just asking a question which makes them think or question their views may set them off.
Or it doesn't have to be that deep. One coworker said they had several days off in a row. I've never had any conflicts with this person. Never socialized with them outside of work. Nothing negative had happened in the course of the evening. I asked what they had planned for their time off and they responded, "That's none of your business!" All I could say was, "Um, okay." Everyone else present was taken aback. The person could have said, "Nothing" or "It's private". I'm not going to carry the issue any further. Just let it go. Anything else would be illogical. I figured I was engaging in normal human conversation.
But this is happening everywhere and I do not understand it. Maybe I don't want to.
Has it always been here and I am just waking up to it? Has it gotten worse because of social media?
In any case, that's a big reason I tend to be isolationist. I'd rather just avoid all the drama. If I socialize it is to find people I have things in common with, not to find confrontation for no reason. Even if there is disagreement, I prefer conversation over argument. I always have and always will.
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