Well, I am still not done with the sunken living room.
I keep trying to paint the baseboards black and the walls white. Unfortunately (being an old house) the baseboards and walls are not very smooth. So masking tape is not keeping paint of one color from bleeding onto another color. I've tried multiple times.
What I will have to do is get an artist's paint brush and do the touching up manually.
Oh, well. The knowledge will speed up doing the rest of the house.
I had wanted to get some things done this morning before working this evening but I feel like crap. I have tomorrow off, so get more done then.
On looking at my schedule at work with the PTO already on the schedule, looks like I'll have at least 11 days on my next paycheck. That helps. It will definitely cover living expenses.
The estimate on the moving pod is less than I expected. That's a good thing. Like, more than $1000 less than the original estimate. That helps a lot, also.
I wrote more to my daughter. Explained how my mind works. One criticism from her is that I don't often say the words, "I'm wrong". When I discuss/debate something with someone, it's about the issue. Trying to reach understanding and/or agreement. My view is that if someone has the need for the other person to say they are wrong (instead of something like "you're right") then it is not about the issue. It's about dominance.
She also said if I do not agree with someone I shut them out. I did not write this to her but I find that comment ironic. It may be largely online but I talk to hundreds of people each week on a wide variety of subjects. Most of whom I agree with or can hold discussions with opposing views. As long as those views are based on facts and ethics. I absolutely DO shut people out whose views harm others and they just don't care. Meanwhile, her mother rarely speaks to me. Her stepfather has not spoken to me in years. Her mother is not working and when I ask, it sounds as if she and her mother rarely if ever leave the house unless to go grocery shopping. Daughter has no friends right now, if what she says is correct. I ask what her mother is doing besides home schooling her and daughter doesn't know. I ask how her stepfather is doing and she doesn't really know.
This isn't new. Every time daughter has been to the state fair, it was with me. Same with River of Lights, Twinkle Lights Parade. Local festivals. Nearly every vacation she has ever been on. Disney World, Grand Canyon, Colorado, Carlsbad, White Sands, ghost towns, Gila Forest, Yellowstone, sledding in the east mountains..
The more I think about all of this, the more I suspect her mother's influence. Some of the criticisms are exactly what her mother used to say. In general, I think she still goes through her emotional swings and when she does, blames me for all the bad things in her life. Even though I am over 1000 miles away and have been for months. Couple that with daughter's teenage years and it's not good.
I think I just need to move there and ride this out. Prove the accusations to be inaccurate. Hope for the best.
I keep trying to paint the baseboards black and the walls white. Unfortunately (being an old house) the baseboards and walls are not very smooth. So masking tape is not keeping paint of one color from bleeding onto another color. I've tried multiple times.
What I will have to do is get an artist's paint brush and do the touching up manually.
Oh, well. The knowledge will speed up doing the rest of the house.
I had wanted to get some things done this morning before working this evening but I feel like crap. I have tomorrow off, so get more done then.
On looking at my schedule at work with the PTO already on the schedule, looks like I'll have at least 11 days on my next paycheck. That helps. It will definitely cover living expenses.
The estimate on the moving pod is less than I expected. That's a good thing. Like, more than $1000 less than the original estimate. That helps a lot, also.
I wrote more to my daughter. Explained how my mind works. One criticism from her is that I don't often say the words, "I'm wrong". When I discuss/debate something with someone, it's about the issue. Trying to reach understanding and/or agreement. My view is that if someone has the need for the other person to say they are wrong (instead of something like "you're right") then it is not about the issue. It's about dominance.
She also said if I do not agree with someone I shut them out. I did not write this to her but I find that comment ironic. It may be largely online but I talk to hundreds of people each week on a wide variety of subjects. Most of whom I agree with or can hold discussions with opposing views. As long as those views are based on facts and ethics. I absolutely DO shut people out whose views harm others and they just don't care. Meanwhile, her mother rarely speaks to me. Her stepfather has not spoken to me in years. Her mother is not working and when I ask, it sounds as if she and her mother rarely if ever leave the house unless to go grocery shopping. Daughter has no friends right now, if what she says is correct. I ask what her mother is doing besides home schooling her and daughter doesn't know. I ask how her stepfather is doing and she doesn't really know.
This isn't new. Every time daughter has been to the state fair, it was with me. Same with River of Lights, Twinkle Lights Parade. Local festivals. Nearly every vacation she has ever been on. Disney World, Grand Canyon, Colorado, Carlsbad, White Sands, ghost towns, Gila Forest, Yellowstone, sledding in the east mountains..
The more I think about all of this, the more I suspect her mother's influence. Some of the criticisms are exactly what her mother used to say. In general, I think she still goes through her emotional swings and when she does, blames me for all the bad things in her life. Even though I am over 1000 miles away and have been for months. Couple that with daughter's teenage years and it's not good.
I think I just need to move there and ride this out. Prove the accusations to be inaccurate. Hope for the best.
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