Got a phone call today which rather depressed me. I had called daughter this morning and she didn't talk much. She never does on the phone. Little while later she called me back. What it came down to was that she virtually said she doesn't want me to move there.
The reason she gave is that I talk too much about politics and things that upset her. Plus she says I never admit when I am wrong. Or that I verbally attack people.
My only defense was pointing out that if someone can show me how I am wrong, I readily admit to it. (Though they actually have to prove that I am wrong.) I turn 55 next month and have spent my whole life trying to learn many subjects. Mostly, I only go after someone if they are doing something which will hurt people. I've been wrong many times in my life, especially when I was younger but I learned from it. At this point, I am rarely wrong because if I do not understand something, I ask questions, read, etc in an attempt to learn more about it.
Seriously, I use words which are a continuous attempt to be accurate. Like, "I think", "I believe", "I read", "I'm pretty sure". So even my wording leaves room for error.
At one point early in the discussion, she said something which indicated I was wrong and I apologized. That was before the part of admitting to being wrong came up. So I did point out that this had occurred beforehand.
In the end, she seemed more comfortable. I told her I will still be moving there to be close to her and because I don't like NM. She knows that part.
Something about this does not sit right. She's never said anything like this before. Now she is over 1000 miles away for several months with only her mother as an influence. And guess what her mother always used to accuse me of? Yep. Never admitting I was wrong. Plus she nearly always used that in the context of opinions.
I did tell her I will stop talking about politics so much. Though I explained that I am concerned with politics because it involves people. My whole life I have cared about people, from being a nurse for 23 years all the way back to studying to be a minister when I was young. To me, religion is about people. Politics are about people. Even war is about people. So, I cannot just turn my back on these things. I can talk about them less but they will remain part of my life, part of me.
So, I hope this fades away. Especially when I get there.
Did not get all that much done today. Feeling down from all the above plus had to go shopping for supplies for the house. Spent about $300, though no small part of that was for tools. Got a tile saw from Harbor Freight and the blade was sold separately. From another store I got tile, some ceramic and some vinyl for different areas. Hence the tile saw. Mortar and plaster.
Last night I installed the curved ceiling mesh. anchored with strong staples and laid the first layer of plaster. Tonight I laid another layer of plaster. It will take one more to complete it. So the cables are covered. Next I can paint the sunken living room after the last layer of plaster dries.
The reason she gave is that I talk too much about politics and things that upset her. Plus she says I never admit when I am wrong. Or that I verbally attack people.
My only defense was pointing out that if someone can show me how I am wrong, I readily admit to it. (Though they actually have to prove that I am wrong.) I turn 55 next month and have spent my whole life trying to learn many subjects. Mostly, I only go after someone if they are doing something which will hurt people. I've been wrong many times in my life, especially when I was younger but I learned from it. At this point, I am rarely wrong because if I do not understand something, I ask questions, read, etc in an attempt to learn more about it.
Seriously, I use words which are a continuous attempt to be accurate. Like, "I think", "I believe", "I read", "I'm pretty sure". So even my wording leaves room for error.
At one point early in the discussion, she said something which indicated I was wrong and I apologized. That was before the part of admitting to being wrong came up. So I did point out that this had occurred beforehand.
In the end, she seemed more comfortable. I told her I will still be moving there to be close to her and because I don't like NM. She knows that part.
Something about this does not sit right. She's never said anything like this before. Now she is over 1000 miles away for several months with only her mother as an influence. And guess what her mother always used to accuse me of? Yep. Never admitting I was wrong. Plus she nearly always used that in the context of opinions.
I did tell her I will stop talking about politics so much. Though I explained that I am concerned with politics because it involves people. My whole life I have cared about people, from being a nurse for 23 years all the way back to studying to be a minister when I was young. To me, religion is about people. Politics are about people. Even war is about people. So, I cannot just turn my back on these things. I can talk about them less but they will remain part of my life, part of me.
So, I hope this fades away. Especially when I get there.
Did not get all that much done today. Feeling down from all the above plus had to go shopping for supplies for the house. Spent about $300, though no small part of that was for tools. Got a tile saw from Harbor Freight and the blade was sold separately. From another store I got tile, some ceramic and some vinyl for different areas. Hence the tile saw. Mortar and plaster.
Last night I installed the curved ceiling mesh. anchored with strong staples and laid the first layer of plaster. Tonight I laid another layer of plaster. It will take one more to complete it. So the cables are covered. Next I can paint the sunken living room after the last layer of plaster dries.
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