Obviously, things keep rolling in my mind, whether I am being unreasonable or not on specific issues.
I have come to the conclusion that I am not. I did let her know who I am before we ever met. In fact, that is largely what led to us talking about more personal subjects she had not revealed to anyone else.
BDSM is a definite part of me. It is about, as I have stated many times, emotional and sensual intensity. Without it, I find the intensity less than I prefer and it seems to indicate trust is lacking in some way.
There is no aspect of this we have not discussed. I have given no indication in any way that I would cause her any harm.
I'm giving this one last shot. I am telling her that I am setting a new rule. We watch TV only one evening a week together. It's reached the point where I feel like she is more interested in the TV than in me. I've said before that we can watch TV any time while at home apart. Some things we cannot do while at home and apart.
Any way, as much as I love her, I am feeling like something is lacking and I have little or no control over it. I could be more aggressive about it but to me consent is everything. Otherwise it equates to abuse, little short of rape.
I have come to the conclusion that I am not. I did let her know who I am before we ever met. In fact, that is largely what led to us talking about more personal subjects she had not revealed to anyone else.
BDSM is a definite part of me. It is about, as I have stated many times, emotional and sensual intensity. Without it, I find the intensity less than I prefer and it seems to indicate trust is lacking in some way.
There is no aspect of this we have not discussed. I have given no indication in any way that I would cause her any harm.
I'm giving this one last shot. I am telling her that I am setting a new rule. We watch TV only one evening a week together. It's reached the point where I feel like she is more interested in the TV than in me. I've said before that we can watch TV any time while at home apart. Some things we cannot do while at home and apart.
Any way, as much as I love her, I am feeling like something is lacking and I have little or no control over it. I could be more aggressive about it but to me consent is everything. Otherwise it equates to abuse, little short of rape.
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