I love people who try to figure me out. They always get it wrong.
If someone I love is under stress, I respond by easing their stress and giving them pleasure by whatever means available to me.
If I am under stress, I respond (if possible) by giving the person I love pleasure by any means possible. In some cases, to an extreme.
If I am not under stress, I respond by giving the person I love pleasure by any means possible. In some cases, to an even greater extreme.
This is not limited to sex. This can take the form of gifts, activities, food, anything.
As a Dom, this is my favorite means of domination. For me, bondage and domination are a means of extending and prolonging pleasure for a very long period of time. Pleasure can be subjective, of course. The longer anything goes on, the higher endorphins increase, the more forceful I become. I often delay or even forego my own pleasure in the process because I gain so much pleasure in the process.
Now, for the very first time in my life, I have a gf who has the same view. For the very first time, I have agreed to be submissive to her. She enjoys the idea. To a degree I am quite surprised by, as she has never been dominant. In general, I will still be the Dom but at times I will submit to her. This has not happened yet but she is planning for it. I am letting her plan.
I initially made the offer to make her feel more empowered. This is something she needs.
Something I understand about her but have not voiced is the fact that under the surface she has a lot of insecurity. I hate that she does. She has a need for adoration and I will willingly give her that in an absolute genuine manner. I do adore her in every way. Except her views on Trump, which I think I am slowly breaking down.
Her need for adoration is somewhat a travesty. She is adored by many people, wanted by men, looked up to by women. However, she does want that adoration to be genuine, not vocalized as a means of using her. I understand that. Been there.
This can take the form of emotional fragility which she tries to hide but cannot from me. Or it can take the form of role play, cosplay. I think at times she may use that as an alternative personality of a conscious form. Part of her tells herself a person admires someone else in the costume, while I realize any costume is another aspect of herself. In any case, I can enjoy it and give her that adoration and she does know I am admiring her, not the costume itself.
It also takes the form of providing pleasure to others. By many means. Helping the sick and disadvantaged, political activism, food, sex, etc. Of course, neither of us are by any means frivolous and have no desire to involve anyone else. Only us. Between us, we seriously do not need anyone else. We have discussed the fact that we can spend many years exploring each other sensually because we are both imaginative and have such depth. Neither ever sees sex as "just sex". There is no such thing as "just sex".
I cannot even imagine either of us doing anything to bring harm or actual pain to the other.
I fall more in love with her the longer I know her. I can see that continuing for the rest of our lives. I have never felt a bond like this. Actually thought I never would.
If someone I love is under stress, I respond by easing their stress and giving them pleasure by whatever means available to me.
If I am under stress, I respond (if possible) by giving the person I love pleasure by any means possible. In some cases, to an extreme.
If I am not under stress, I respond by giving the person I love pleasure by any means possible. In some cases, to an even greater extreme.
This is not limited to sex. This can take the form of gifts, activities, food, anything.
As a Dom, this is my favorite means of domination. For me, bondage and domination are a means of extending and prolonging pleasure for a very long period of time. Pleasure can be subjective, of course. The longer anything goes on, the higher endorphins increase, the more forceful I become. I often delay or even forego my own pleasure in the process because I gain so much pleasure in the process.
Now, for the very first time in my life, I have a gf who has the same view. For the very first time, I have agreed to be submissive to her. She enjoys the idea. To a degree I am quite surprised by, as she has never been dominant. In general, I will still be the Dom but at times I will submit to her. This has not happened yet but she is planning for it. I am letting her plan.
I initially made the offer to make her feel more empowered. This is something she needs.
Something I understand about her but have not voiced is the fact that under the surface she has a lot of insecurity. I hate that she does. She has a need for adoration and I will willingly give her that in an absolute genuine manner. I do adore her in every way. Except her views on Trump, which I think I am slowly breaking down.
Her need for adoration is somewhat a travesty. She is adored by many people, wanted by men, looked up to by women. However, she does want that adoration to be genuine, not vocalized as a means of using her. I understand that. Been there.
This can take the form of emotional fragility which she tries to hide but cannot from me. Or it can take the form of role play, cosplay. I think at times she may use that as an alternative personality of a conscious form. Part of her tells herself a person admires someone else in the costume, while I realize any costume is another aspect of herself. In any case, I can enjoy it and give her that adoration and she does know I am admiring her, not the costume itself.
It also takes the form of providing pleasure to others. By many means. Helping the sick and disadvantaged, political activism, food, sex, etc. Of course, neither of us are by any means frivolous and have no desire to involve anyone else. Only us. Between us, we seriously do not need anyone else. We have discussed the fact that we can spend many years exploring each other sensually because we are both imaginative and have such depth. Neither ever sees sex as "just sex". There is no such thing as "just sex".
I cannot even imagine either of us doing anything to bring harm or actual pain to the other.
I fall more in love with her the longer I know her. I can see that continuing for the rest of our lives. I have never felt a bond like this. Actually thought I never would.
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