I am feeling somewhat powerless in a sense.
Wish I had the resources to pull my gf out of the situation she is in. She tells me the emotional torture her husband puts her through. I know it could be worse or we would never have a moment together, let alone hours. But he is trying to crack down on that, too.
She had quit working because of her health issues and because he voiced objection. Then he has used that as a means of controlling her. She has told me most often if she spends any money on anything, he knows about it before she even gets home. Now he went as far as demanding she cancel magazines which she actually reads. Some she has subscribed to for decades. He has subscriptions he is keeping yet does not read, just piles them up.
They're not rich but far from poor.
She spent all day Sat cleaning and organizing the house. She went somewhere today for maybe two hours. By the time she got home he had moved everything around she had organized. Not the first time for that. He has moved things she uses for cooking and crafts in such a way she had no idea where they were and he would not tell her.
He looks for things to be angry about, slams doors. Moves vehicles so she cannot get in her SUV without him moving other vehicles. He has his own car and blocks hers in. They have jet skis and he moves her SUV so it is blocked in by those as well.
A few days ago, she got home and he had torn the head off of one of her collectible antique dolls. Then denied he had done so. Even though items that had been under the doll were then moved, even on top of the doll.
He seriously seems like he is trying to make her lose her sanity. She has told me I am the only thing keeping her sane at this point. I believe her.
It hurts me knowing what she goes through. Actually brings tears to my eyes at times.
Only thing I can do is giver her my ear, shoulder, time, support and compassion for now. But maybe it is better this way. If there were any doubt remaining in her mind, any hope for her marriage, she is seeing it for what it is now. She sees his behavior for what it is, a continuous attempt at control and oppression.
Seriously, what kind of man does not have sex with his own wife for almost 4 years? And does nothing about it? I've left bruises on her and he knows nothing about them. She has changed things about her body hair (long before she met me) and he has no idea. Not like she is frigid. FAR from it, she is a really passionate and uninhibited lover. Cosplay, role play, toys, belly dancing, chair dancing and pole dancing. To say the least. And he tries to make her feel bad about these things. WTF?!! She was like that when she met him. His friends said they were surprised she had any interest in him and that they thought he was gay! (Funny thing is that he apparently laughed but never denied it.) But he sure likes going to the gym a lot.
I'm not kidding. I think he's gay and publicly denying it, even to her. Something seriously wrong with him. He's not religious, so that's not the issue.
I have to find a better job. Going to start looking tomorrow.
Wish I had the resources to pull my gf out of the situation she is in. She tells me the emotional torture her husband puts her through. I know it could be worse or we would never have a moment together, let alone hours. But he is trying to crack down on that, too.
She had quit working because of her health issues and because he voiced objection. Then he has used that as a means of controlling her. She has told me most often if she spends any money on anything, he knows about it before she even gets home. Now he went as far as demanding she cancel magazines which she actually reads. Some she has subscribed to for decades. He has subscriptions he is keeping yet does not read, just piles them up.
They're not rich but far from poor.
She spent all day Sat cleaning and organizing the house. She went somewhere today for maybe two hours. By the time she got home he had moved everything around she had organized. Not the first time for that. He has moved things she uses for cooking and crafts in such a way she had no idea where they were and he would not tell her.
He looks for things to be angry about, slams doors. Moves vehicles so she cannot get in her SUV without him moving other vehicles. He has his own car and blocks hers in. They have jet skis and he moves her SUV so it is blocked in by those as well.
A few days ago, she got home and he had torn the head off of one of her collectible antique dolls. Then denied he had done so. Even though items that had been under the doll were then moved, even on top of the doll.
He seriously seems like he is trying to make her lose her sanity. She has told me I am the only thing keeping her sane at this point. I believe her.
It hurts me knowing what she goes through. Actually brings tears to my eyes at times.
Only thing I can do is giver her my ear, shoulder, time, support and compassion for now. But maybe it is better this way. If there were any doubt remaining in her mind, any hope for her marriage, she is seeing it for what it is now. She sees his behavior for what it is, a continuous attempt at control and oppression.
Seriously, what kind of man does not have sex with his own wife for almost 4 years? And does nothing about it? I've left bruises on her and he knows nothing about them. She has changed things about her body hair (long before she met me) and he has no idea. Not like she is frigid. FAR from it, she is a really passionate and uninhibited lover. Cosplay, role play, toys, belly dancing, chair dancing and pole dancing. To say the least. And he tries to make her feel bad about these things. WTF?!! She was like that when she met him. His friends said they were surprised she had any interest in him and that they thought he was gay! (Funny thing is that he apparently laughed but never denied it.) But he sure likes going to the gym a lot.
I'm not kidding. I think he's gay and publicly denying it, even to her. Something seriously wrong with him. He's not religious, so that's not the issue.
I have to find a better job. Going to start looking tomorrow.
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