Most of my life I have been happiest in monogamous relationships. Or, at least I talked myself into that mindset. The literal truth is that monogamy has not served me well at all.
So, lately I have been rethinking polyamory. Not to be confused with polygamy or swinging. Those are different.
Polyamory is where a person is either single or in an open relationship where one or more partners can have other long term intimate partners with an emotional connection to each partner. Usually these are limited in scope and each primary or tertiary partner agrees to keep the arrangement limited.
This seems like something which would serve me much better than monogamy. I've been in relationships with too many emotionally unstable partners that ultimately left me feeling more alone than when I have been single and unattached. At least if I am unattached, I have no expectations and so cannot be disappointed.
This would be better than remaining in damaging relationships for far too long as I have done in the past. If one partner is busy or intentionally disappoints me, I am not left alone. If one partner leaves, it does not leave me emotionally devastated with nobody to share my feelings with.
It is not a question that I have the capacity to love more than one person.
Considering most of my past relationships have also made me feel incomplete in some way because I always felt they could only relate to me in limited ways, seeing as my personality apparently is more complex than most. So, having more than one partner would at least allow me to feel more complete in the relationships.
Of course, infectious disease is a concern. I plan on using protection, at least until all partners are tested, including myself.
So, this is the course I am going to follow, or at least try to follow.
So, lately I have been rethinking polyamory. Not to be confused with polygamy or swinging. Those are different.
Polyamory is where a person is either single or in an open relationship where one or more partners can have other long term intimate partners with an emotional connection to each partner. Usually these are limited in scope and each primary or tertiary partner agrees to keep the arrangement limited.
This seems like something which would serve me much better than monogamy. I've been in relationships with too many emotionally unstable partners that ultimately left me feeling more alone than when I have been single and unattached. At least if I am unattached, I have no expectations and so cannot be disappointed.
This would be better than remaining in damaging relationships for far too long as I have done in the past. If one partner is busy or intentionally disappoints me, I am not left alone. If one partner leaves, it does not leave me emotionally devastated with nobody to share my feelings with.
It is not a question that I have the capacity to love more than one person.
Considering most of my past relationships have also made me feel incomplete in some way because I always felt they could only relate to me in limited ways, seeing as my personality apparently is more complex than most. So, having more than one partner would at least allow me to feel more complete in the relationships.
Of course, infectious disease is a concern. I plan on using protection, at least until all partners are tested, including myself.
So, this is the course I am going to follow, or at least try to follow.
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