Yesterday I took daughter to meet her bf for lunch. Then went to the mall across the street.
The boy's father and I sat and talked while they had their date. His father is nice. I think he fears me a little because I'm a Progressive. Though the more we talk, he slowly agrees with me more and more. So what I'm seeing in microcosm is how so many people here actually have Progressive viewpoints but are bound by identity politics. They define themselves as Conservatives and as such often wait for their views to be detailed for them. Problem is, neither Democrats or Republicans are offering details on much. He has worked for a company for many years that has union and labor power, promotes from within, so employees are treated well. So that alone makes his view rather Progressive in a Conservative state. If daughter keeps dating this boy, the father and I may become friends.
Problem is, when we left the mall, daughter was rather quiet and withdrawn. I'm not sure what that was about because she would not say. I have a feeling something was said that affected her. She also texted with him a lot less over the evening than she has been doing. I told her she can talk to me but did not force anything.
My gf came over last night. I had doubted she was going to. She said she would around 6 but came a lot later.
The conflict continues between her and her husband. I'm not sure where that is going to go and how it will affect us or her feelings about me. She now started questioning me even to the point where I texted on NYE at 11:38, "Only 22 minutes. It's a short drive to my place." I thought the meaning was obvious. Yet she asked if that text was meant for her. I'm here with my daughter who has met her and I would be texting that to someone else?
I try and be a stable influence for the people in my life. It causes problems for me emotionally when I am accused in some way of being anything else. Even if I think of seeking another lover, it's not likely to happen and I know it. My emotions and sex drive are too entwined. I'd be more likely to be celibate for a while if not in one relationship. Most likely. No matter what, if I'm not attracted to a person on other levels, I'm not attracted physically and I have not spent any time with anyone else.
She has mentioned her husband insulting her sexually several times. So, I expect this will affect us in some way. Either she will doubt me and we have sex even less or she will want to have sex more as confirmation. I'm fine with the latter. Not so fine with the former. I would hope it would lead to her being less inhibited with me. Somehow, I doubt that's how it will go.
The boy's father and I sat and talked while they had their date. His father is nice. I think he fears me a little because I'm a Progressive. Though the more we talk, he slowly agrees with me more and more. So what I'm seeing in microcosm is how so many people here actually have Progressive viewpoints but are bound by identity politics. They define themselves as Conservatives and as such often wait for their views to be detailed for them. Problem is, neither Democrats or Republicans are offering details on much. He has worked for a company for many years that has union and labor power, promotes from within, so employees are treated well. So that alone makes his view rather Progressive in a Conservative state. If daughter keeps dating this boy, the father and I may become friends.
Problem is, when we left the mall, daughter was rather quiet and withdrawn. I'm not sure what that was about because she would not say. I have a feeling something was said that affected her. She also texted with him a lot less over the evening than she has been doing. I told her she can talk to me but did not force anything.
My gf came over last night. I had doubted she was going to. She said she would around 6 but came a lot later.
The conflict continues between her and her husband. I'm not sure where that is going to go and how it will affect us or her feelings about me. She now started questioning me even to the point where I texted on NYE at 11:38, "Only 22 minutes. It's a short drive to my place." I thought the meaning was obvious. Yet she asked if that text was meant for her. I'm here with my daughter who has met her and I would be texting that to someone else?
I try and be a stable influence for the people in my life. It causes problems for me emotionally when I am accused in some way of being anything else. Even if I think of seeking another lover, it's not likely to happen and I know it. My emotions and sex drive are too entwined. I'd be more likely to be celibate for a while if not in one relationship. Most likely. No matter what, if I'm not attracted to a person on other levels, I'm not attracted physically and I have not spent any time with anyone else.
She has mentioned her husband insulting her sexually several times. So, I expect this will affect us in some way. Either she will doubt me and we have sex even less or she will want to have sex more as confirmation. I'm fine with the latter. Not so fine with the former. I would hope it would lead to her being less inhibited with me. Somehow, I doubt that's how it will go.
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