When I opened my email this morning I was in for a huge shock.
The ex told me her husband got a job in Montgomery, AL. They are supposed to leave before 9/12/16. Of course, my daughter will be moving with them.
I does break my heart she wants to go with them and not stay with me. However, she wants to live someplace with green trees and rain. Can't blame her there!
To be an active part of her life, of course I will move there as well. I don't like it here to begin with. Moved quite a few times in my life, so it's not a big deal to me to move per se.
It is going to be a huge thing as far as effort. I have to finish fixing up the house, wiring, patching walls, painting. etc. Rip out the garden. Till the whole garden under. Sell the house. Start trying to find a job before I get there.
This throws my priorities all off with the house. Guess some things will be easier since I can start disposing of things I was going to keep. Much of it I will no longer need enough to pack and carry.
I took it with a grain of salt this morning. True to me, it took a while for the stress to set in. As the day wore on, so did the stress. Trying to figure out where to start. I think the office would be a good place to get started.
I never did get this house in order the whole time I lived here. Looks like the closest I will get is just before moving out. How depressing.
Right now I do not feel like moving. Mostly confusion. It may take months before I get things in order and see my daughter again.
Wish I had known about this weeks ago. Though I would not have been able to do much until the final word came down.
I have big concerns about all of them emotionally.
For daughter, I am not sure how being away from me will affect her. Plus none of them have ever lived in a place with such blatant racism. Daughter will not go along with it and will not remain silent about it. She is also moving away from her friends and she had finally made some real friends. Fucking seriously? First damn week into the new school year?!!!
The ex also has never lived in a place so racist. She may be able to handle it. Not sure about much else.
Her husband is another issue entirely. He has never lived outside NM. He has always lived near his family. He was about 26 and still living at home when he met the ex. He may be a lot more stable than I think. However, from a distance he seems of questionable emotional stability to me. Once again I could be wrong. He has refused to speak to me for years, though only met me twice for less than 10 minutes each time. Daughter tells me he spends most of his time alone. Now he is dealing with the emotional debris of a recently failed business along with a pending massive life change like nothing he has experienced before. The way I see it from here there is tremendous potential for negative events. I am so hoping to be completely wrong on this.
The ex told me her husband got a job in Montgomery, AL. They are supposed to leave before 9/12/16. Of course, my daughter will be moving with them.
I does break my heart she wants to go with them and not stay with me. However, she wants to live someplace with green trees and rain. Can't blame her there!
To be an active part of her life, of course I will move there as well. I don't like it here to begin with. Moved quite a few times in my life, so it's not a big deal to me to move per se.
It is going to be a huge thing as far as effort. I have to finish fixing up the house, wiring, patching walls, painting. etc. Rip out the garden. Till the whole garden under. Sell the house. Start trying to find a job before I get there.
This throws my priorities all off with the house. Guess some things will be easier since I can start disposing of things I was going to keep. Much of it I will no longer need enough to pack and carry.
I took it with a grain of salt this morning. True to me, it took a while for the stress to set in. As the day wore on, so did the stress. Trying to figure out where to start. I think the office would be a good place to get started.
I never did get this house in order the whole time I lived here. Looks like the closest I will get is just before moving out. How depressing.
Right now I do not feel like moving. Mostly confusion. It may take months before I get things in order and see my daughter again.
Wish I had known about this weeks ago. Though I would not have been able to do much until the final word came down.
I have big concerns about all of them emotionally.
For daughter, I am not sure how being away from me will affect her. Plus none of them have ever lived in a place with such blatant racism. Daughter will not go along with it and will not remain silent about it. She is also moving away from her friends and she had finally made some real friends. Fucking seriously? First damn week into the new school year?!!!
The ex also has never lived in a place so racist. She may be able to handle it. Not sure about much else.
Her husband is another issue entirely. He has never lived outside NM. He has always lived near his family. He was about 26 and still living at home when he met the ex. He may be a lot more stable than I think. However, from a distance he seems of questionable emotional stability to me. Once again I could be wrong. He has refused to speak to me for years, though only met me twice for less than 10 minutes each time. Daughter tells me he spends most of his time alone. Now he is dealing with the emotional debris of a recently failed business along with a pending massive life change like nothing he has experienced before. The way I see it from here there is tremendous potential for negative events. I am so hoping to be completely wrong on this.
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